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Dating has become such an ice age movement in the Kenyan dating world such that when a man asks a woman out from the moment he sees her, he is already labelled a good gentleman; most of the time it is normally, ‘So when will you come over?’ Then an argument will ensue if she really wants to be respected like that and the real side will show; either she will get the date or the man will explain why it is not necessary since they know each other.
His manners towards her
Most of the time the man will wonder why she suddenly became cold towards him, but it is not that hard to figure out. As much as you would like to think that you can behave like a caveman because of everyone else is like that; that is your group. There are still some gentlemen out here and they take time to treat women right.
You want to make a big deal out of everything she asks, you do not want to ask her out, you do not want to take her anywhere and when you actually do on a date you make such a big deal of you having to spend that money. If that is your behaviour initially, who the hell wants to deal with that after they are officially with you? It is not her attitude, but yours. Obviously, you will not be hearing from her again
Hygiene and grooming
As much as you talk about this, there are always going to be the ones who either do not read neither do they take advice because it is him being a man. Grooming is important for any woman and hygiene takes you a long way from being a simple D to an amazing A. You can be handsome but if you are not clean; you are disgusting. Then you can be average or below and that is why some marriages and pairing do not make sense to a lot of people. The guy simply stepped up on the things he could actually change.
Behaviour and character
The one slurping soup noisily will make you center of not such good attention. The one talking loudly and abrasively is definitely a sight to behold or the one that is complaining about everything all the time. Being insulting and rude from a man toward other people has never been good-looking coming from a man. It just helps her make up her mind about the rest of you.
The guy who demands they split
If she wants to split and asks then nothing wrong with that but most of time she will just wait to see how you react to the bill especially if you are the one who asked her out. At times a man will push it at the center of the table so that she can see how much he is spending on her so that she can appreciate it and him. If you are seeking such validation from a simple meal what is awaiting her if she decided she is not giving up anything after a month of dating?
Checking in on her before and after the date
Like making sure she is safe and will be okay to get to and from the date. Demanding that she be a certain place or time but not asking if she can even make it or caring how she will get there; does not look well. Then she does not want to go home with you after dinner so you sulk and never even ask if she got home fine; you will not hear from her again.
