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Do I even need to say why? There are a ton of reasons and half of them are because you benefit and depend on some of that salary. The other half is that it is none of your business and they depend on it as well. You cannot ruin someone’s work or reputation. If you go for the office party and know that you are not good with liquor, don’t drink. It sticks. If you see foreign numbers in their phone that set you off, you have to first think about what they do then ask yourself if it is actually what you are thinking.
Now it is story time because you know I love telling you stories. It is related to the topic so bear with me.
I was having lunch with the two women, a mother and daughter, the other day. Out of the blue she asks her mother if she told her what so and so’s wife did. The mother shakes her head in a negative but you can see she is already offended because how would the said person’s wife get her daughter’s number. It is the wife to someone that the mother normally works with. In her line of work, she comes in contact with a lot of men, which to some women it might look wrong. She sets up houses, so in order for that to happen she needs land and who are the most agents in finding land? Men! So this particular wife once saw the daughter and the mother picking up her husband. The daughter called to tell him they were waiting outside so that he could take them to that particular location. I don’t know if the wife had this idea that they had a ménage a trois planned? I don’t know because the way some brains work it really can be a mystery. Two ladies, one elderly-sort of and another one, barely out of the school room come and pick your man, at your gate, not in hiding or undercover but in the open. How do you end up with the idea that he is cheating with either one? He might be; but trust me; you will not see her picking your husband at the gate that brazenly
So this man’s old lady waited until he got home on a particular day and the man must have gone to shower or something because he left the phone behind. The woman decides to call the daughter to the lady and ask her who she is and what she and her husband are doing. The girl is in campus so you know she does not know how to deal with some problems. She was caught off guard and in that moment she was still figuring out a proper reply and why she was being asked such a question, the man came back in the room. The wife cut off the call quickly and it seems the man went through his log and saw the dialed number. He definitely knew it was not he who placed the call, so he must have never left the phone lying around again because she never called the girl again. Now you see how stupid wives can be? Forgive me for being harsh but how do you make a proper investigative call-like a proper FBI? You call and you clear the log afterwards and if he catches you, you hide the phone and pretend to have not seen where he placed it. You help him search for it until after you clear your evidence. This one must have been caught, really?
But on a more serious note; that man just came in the nick of time because worst case scenario that woman starts hurling insults and threats. Obviously the mother would have never worked with him again. This is the same wife that will start giving her man a hard time the moment his pay is not enough or he loses his job for her actions. Like the men or women that call at their spouse’s work to insult the boss thinking that the spouse is having an affair with that person who keeps calling.
Check your facts first then do your damage. The many ways I can insist on this will not be enough to convince someone who has no sense. Look at your spouse’s profession and the people they need to be in constant contact with and ask yourself how many more people can do that work. The moment they become a problem or a spouse becomes a problem; they are let go of and someone else steps in. This is Kenya; you do not play around with someone’s employment because there are many people looking for jobs. Someone side hustle is important. So as a spouse, I am not saying that you should be stupid and turn a blind eye. If you smell something fishy; have a look at it. Take your time and investigate. Figure your facts out first then do what you need to do.
Just because it’s a man’s or woman’s number they keep talking to, does not mean what you think it means; it can be their boss, their partner or someone equally important. You will ruin it after you call and hurl insults and they will definitely not want to work with them anymore because you are a problem. Don’t be a problem in every aspect of someone’s life.
After marriage, some don’t know that a job can quickly become a sort of refuge-their getaway. Be a problem at home and leave it at that. Let someone’s work place be. Someone will eventually get tired of losing out and they will leave you because there is only so much money you can keep losing because of someone in your life.
