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In an emotional interview with Kemi Adetiba for “King Women”, Chioma Omeruah aka Chigul revealed personal details about her life. She revealed that her marriage crashed just after one year even though she married as a virgin.
“When my marriage fell apart, I felt like I failed at something and I had no where to learn. It fell apart and I didn’t wan’t it to fall apart. I felt like I disappointed my dad because we talked about it before he died. I felt like when I needed people for me then, no one was. No one was there and I wanted people to be there, I wanted to be able to go to my mum and cry and say I’m tired. Then she’ll just always say, Go back to your husband.
“The worst was when I discovered that my husband had a child with someone else. This was a year into my separation. When I found out my mum had heard, I was like, I’m done with everyone. Don’t talk to me.
“But I later thought about it. How was she supposed to tell me? I knew it affected her, I knew the way my life was going affected her. The worst thing for me is not being in a relationship, I wanted to give her grandchildren, I wanted us to bond over those things and my success with my life, career is great., it’s wonderful, I thank God for it everyday but I want other things too. I want to talk to her about how children misbehave and she can now say …..
“I met my husband in 2007. His uncles were my father’s people. We were friends as teenagers and in secondary school. When I came back from America, we started talking. After about a year courtship, we decided to get married. He proposed and I said Yes. We were not perfect, they were good days, very happy times. It just got to a place where he didn’t care anymore, I didn’t care anymore. we both didn’t care. It took me a long place where we decided we need to divorce. We were separated for so long but in that time, I still wanted to see that maybe somewhere in the back of my mind we didn’t try had enough, maybe we could, but he wasn’t interested anymore. And when we started discussing divorce, we became more cordial. I didn’t;t want to end things really badly anyway, I would rather we stay cordial because we had to see, we are related to people who are in our lives all the time and till this very day his cousins, uncles are still calling me the wife. It just sort of fizzled and I can’t tell you when or how.
“I had been made to believe that it was my job to keep that afloat and the fact that it sank, I felt I failed at this. It fell apart and then I find out about the child. I got upset because we were still officially married buy then, emotionally, he had left the building, because he was with someone else
“That was his way and I discovered that It would be a worse off crime if I did not live my life to the fullest, because I was depressed, I went through depression. My friends in Abuja had a small intervention. I was literally broken inside.
