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If you have actually remained in a relationship that you really feel is not going anywhere good, these are the tips you should know if your man is just using you.
We’ve all been in a relationship where we’re just not sure if it’s going anywhere. We look at our friends and their relationships, and think we’re surely doing something wrong.
Why aren’t we as happy as them? Why do we feel unsure about our relationship?
You have to ask yourself a few questions. Does your man make you feel a little bit bad about yourself? Do you date a guy with a few questionable habits who you hope will change but know that he actually never will? Do you find yourself making excuses for him constantly, telling your family and friends that he’s just having a bad day.
These are just a handful of signs that you’re probably dating the wrong guy. Let’s take a look at some more.
1. He Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself
Your man is supposed to be the one sole person who makes you feel good about yourself. When it feels as thought the world is tumbling down around you, your boyfriend is the one person who is supposed to cheer you up.
He’s supposed to tell you that you’re just great no matter what anyone says. He’s supposed to tell you that you look stunning tonight, despite you feeling deeply unattractive.
If instead he constantly puts you down and damages your self-esteem, you need to take this as a sign that he probably isn’t worth your time.
2. He’s A Poor Communicator
You want to have a rational discussion about your problems, but the minute you say anything he just flips; he goes up the wall and starts shouting and screaming. Basically, he’s emotionally immature and cannot commute like a grown-up. If this is him, your relationship is eventually going to beak down for good.
3. He Has No Drive
If your boyfriend thinks that getting to Level 100 on Halo is a sign of ambition, you’re basically dating a loser. You’re on a hiding to nothing.
We need guys who have drive and ambition; we need men who have aspirations and want to better themselves.
A man who spends his entire days playing video games, eating junk and basically waiting for the football game to begin is a guy who probably isn’t going to change no matter how hard you try. Drive is inborn, you can’t teach it. Let him go.
4. He Just Doesn’t Listen To You
So you spent all yesterday reminding him that you were going to out all day today and that he would need to cook a meal for when you and your mom return home from shopping.
Naturally, you return home absolutely starving and ready to eat a delightful meal.
Only, he forgot to listen and has been out playing golf with the guys.
And he’s now just returned home absolutely starving and ready to eat a delightful meal.
5. He Undermines Your Dreams
We all need dreams. Dreams give us hope and make us believe in a better future. Without dreams, what would be the point in even trying? What would be the point in evenliving?
If your man is the type who pours cold water on your dreams and tells you to stay grounded because life is not going to get any better, alarm bells should be ringing in your head. What you need and deserve from a relationship is support and encouragement. You need a man who will get behind you and share your dreams.
6. He Loves Complimenting Other Women
Yes, you know the waitress is hot and the barista is every guys type. But does your boyfriend have to keep telling you this stuff? No, he doesn’t.
