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If you are seriously dating, hoping for a serious relationship from that person, then yes, there are things you should refrain from doing in order for you not to come off the wrong way. Obviously there are people who date just for fun, others because they have nothing better to do but not everyone is dating hoping for a serious relationship.
There are things you also just avoid doing because as long as you are not the one for them, you don’t want to put in wasted effort. Wait for someone to be yours then you go the extra mile for them.
Don’t go overboard with the spending on your date
‘She never wanted me for me but my money.’ Well, yes because you made the whole getting to know each other period about what you could do for her. Men make this one mistake when it comes to a woman they actually really want or really like. The conversation is not flowing properly so you offer to take her for shopping because that will make her happy. You want to see her smile so you pull that card. And some women, who do not actually want you, know how to manipulate you in that way until they come across fatter prey.
If someone does not want you from the beginning, let them go. Your spending will only make them stick around for so long until they eventually move on. Now you lose both a partner and your money. Take them out, treat them well, but leave it at that until they make that commitment to you.
Don’t ‘pop up’ at his house to cook and clean
Those wife duties.; the thing about them is that, they work for some but for most; if he never liked your personality, your looks and anything else you had to offer, that will not change. The only women it works for are the ones that he knew from the get go it could work. Her personality, looks, worked for him. Her washing the dishes only fast tracks the process.
Take whatever attitude a man gives you from the beginning and work with that; force the relationship and you will be getting rough turns in the relationship as well. Some women have never gotten this about men; he can be single, he can even agree to be in that relationship but for most, it is just pushing time until what he wants comes along. That is how a man dumps a girlfriend of five years for someone he met a week ago. He was just keeping busy; what is not to like about having a girlfriend that is on hand to cook, clean and have sex instead of being single?
Let them invite you to their functions don’t invite yourself
Inviting yourself to their family events, their work functions or the meeting with friends; will make you look foolish when they have a conversation with them and they say, ‘I don’t even know how to make him/her stop. It is annoying and I don’t want him/ her.’ Just don’t invite yourself to their anything until you get to know them better and they invite you. Don’t offer to alleviate their boredom; let them go alone and be bored on their own. It is not your job to be a clown. If they want you, they will know where to find you.
Don’t force to have a relationship with their child (-ren)
This is in case you are dating someone that already has a child or children. You do not have to show you can be a good babysitter or force to have a good relationship with their child. This is how some people end up getting used. Your desperation is showing, so next time this person wants to go somewhere without you; they tell you it is something important and ask if you could watch their child. They know they do not want anything to do with you and they do not want a relationship but they keep you around because you are proving to be a good baby sitter.
Commit to their brood when they commit to you. Otherwise, get to know them first, see if there could be something there then the child can come in.
