PH
Nairobi – First of all, to just remove any confusion from the comments I am about to make, let us just say, that someone that wants to marry you, will go out of their way to please you and convince you to be their partner. Sort of what most women do when it comes to the man they want for themselves.
He will want to show you that you are not making the wrong decision if you decide to settle with him. If a man is doing the following, then you should consider because I should tell you, some women are committing to men that are treating them like a fly whisk. You know that thing the late Jomo Kenyatta had, the one when you want to chase a fly or beat it, you use, some women are treated like that. When he wants her to sort out some disturbance or inconvenience in his life, he picks her up then when he is done, he puts her back down and continues living.
A man that wants to be a husband will act like a husband
He will behave and treat you like he is already in your life. He will not wait but just do. You will not have to chase him around to remind him of his duties or what he needs to do. You can remind but when you have to constantly male it into a big deal for it to be done, then you do have a problem. Someone who is already stressing you before you settle down with them is definitely not a person you want as a husband. If he is running away from taking care of his own kid, then how is he going to be any better in marriage or if you are the current babe, with your own children?
How he treats or talks about other women
Any woman that he comes across, even the waitress; is he rude to her because she is just serving him anyway then turning a blinding smile on you. It is also not just once but something that you keep noticing but you blow it off because you are thinking but he treats me better. That is a façade until he gets you in his clutches. Just wait for the real colors for when you choose him for forever after. He will turn on you eventually.
How he takes care of his own people
His family, his relatives, his father or any other person closely related to him. You are eventually going to be part of that circle. What more clues do you want or need? Don’t say, ‘…But as a wife it is different!’ Yes it is, and no it is not- the treatment he gives them might just be…might being the key word-might just be what you also get.
Watch the temper
Mild people are really nice to get married to but we cannot always have what we want. Know yourself, and then ask yourself what you need. If high tempered, look for someone cool and vice versa; if you are both high then bad news especially if you do not know how to be adults.
If they also get violent and easily angered; you should watch out. Marriage knows how to push some buttons. So ask yourself if you will be able to manage such situations.
