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Maybe it is not that you mean to but that is just the way it is. But you are tired of not experiencing good relationships because the guys normally walk out, get tired or they just avoid you.
Insecurity comes in a lot more ways than just throwing jealous tantrums or checking someone’s personal stuff and that is why you are still trying to figure it out even though you try to act normal most of the time.
The man cannot do anything without you being involved
If he wants to go out and have a guy’s time you want to go as well. If you are not invited you make such a big deal out of it and you make it into an everyday habit. It gets uncomfortable for the guy to even bring up that conversation. Wanting to come along once in a while is not such a bad thing but when you make it an issue that is a problem. It gets uncomfortable when you tag along to the guys’ night and you are always the only woman there. It gets really awkward, you might not see it but they do. For some functions they now have to sit it out because you cannot go on the raft or waterboarding. You cannot make your existence tied to someone, people get tired breathing the same air every day and that is why healthy relationships have normal time outs.
His interaction with other women is a really big deal for you
Of course it is always a problem for a lot of women in relationships. You want to know who she is, how long she has been around and how relevant she is. For most women, when they can categorize this and realize that some friends are just family friends then you get over it and move on but you, you do not let it go. Calls irk you, texts get to you and a formally close friendship gets tedious because you have a problem. It gets worse when it is no longer that circle but every woman; at a party, at work, on the road-every woman. You go through the phone and make calls and threaten people who have no idea of what you are talking about. As a girlfriend, you are on commission and you best believe that your time is running out. Someone cannot stop talking and interacting with other people because of you, they move on.
You have an issue with his alone time activities
If you are there, all attention should be on you. If he wants to spend a weekend alone watching sports, he already knows that this is going to be paid back. You cannot have an issue with someone enjoying their sports, gaming, or outdoor activities because you want to call them ‘childish and unnecessary’ because you are more important. He needs to start being an adult but you see the problem with this thinking is that, that moment you want to enjoy your shows without interruption and the things you enjoy but force him to participate, you create a breach in your relationship. Just like you want to continue with your own activities, he should be able to as well.
You cannot tell your boyfriend what to do with his money
You can tell a spouse, you can advise a boyfriend but if they are not spendthrifts and they are not asking for loans then their money, their business. Someone should not feel uncomfortable spending on themselves but you expect them to spend on you because it makes more sense.
