PH
Nairobi – ‘Kenyan men are not romantic.’ That’s the cry of most Kenyan women.
You still date them and marry them though! Unless we are all flying out of the country to marry other people and that will be a false assumption.
They are not all that bad and I am not being biased because I have seen the bad ones and I have seen the good ones as well or heard. They all come in different packages because at the end of the day you are the one that picks or clings onto the person you are with and they will treat you as well or as bad as you allow them to. That is my opinion.
These are a couple of ways that I think most Kenyan men will show their affection to the one they like, they want, they love, they marry or the one they feel like having a fling with until they get bored.
They will make sure you are safe
Personally, in my own experience no matter how bad the situation turned out, he would make sure that I would get wherever I am going before he also goes his own way. Once I was really having a bad date/ experience with someone and since I am not good with my lying face, I think it showed. So, he also got upset and we were both in a hurry to just end it. I assumed he would just rush off and leave me to deal with myself and find my own way. The guy was kind enough to actually get me back to wherever I was going even though we did not have a conversation the whole way. At some point I actually thought he was doing it to make sure he would not have the police come after him asking if he knew a certain lady that was killed or met some worse fate. But we do have to give credit where it is due-he made sure I was safe before he went off.
He will at least make the pretense of enjoying what you want to do (He does not want to be there but he will be because you want him to)
A lot of you will say that, ‘…But that is what most guys do.’ No they do not. Just ask some women who are in a relationship but the man never does anything with them. So if yours is willing to accompany you most times when you ask, especially on your errands or some event or shopping-appreciate. For some, they will switch off the phone after promising to take you.
He provides
I have caught my mother and auntie so many times swearing how her man does not do anything for her. She will grumble how she does everything on her own and swear that she has educated the kids all on her own. At the same time she will send you to go ask for the money or you will be the one delivering the money to her for some necessity. She will still say he does not do anything. Thing is, you do not argue with a Kenyan mother but just nod your head even if the bill you are staring at says otherwise. Most Kenyan men try, even if it will not be to your satisfaction, some do try. It is a bonus if you do not have to chase him up and down.
They are really into gift giving by the way
He will not take you out or he will shy away from that. If he does, it is because you asked him at some point but what I know for a fact is that Kenyan men do love gift giving. At times you are even shopping and a guy will come stand next to you and bargain for something with you, for his significant other. It might be cheap, it might not be what you want but if he tries, appreciate. Some people only receive gifts once a year, maybe on a birthday or Valentines. If you are always getting shoes, and bags and what nots yet you did not buy them, appreciate.
