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Diamond Platnumz and his sisters Esma Platnumz and Queen Darleen seem incapable of naturing and maintaining their relationships and marriages. And this is something we have all seen though perhaps not all of us have taken note as to why it is and what it says about them.
Diamond Platnumz has had several high profile romances that have all ended up in heartbreak with most of the women (save Wema Sepetu) have ended up pregnant by him. And while the going was great, they all built castles in the sky. From Zari to Hamisa Mobetto to Tanasha Donna, they all went around claiming they had tamed Simba only for them to realize he was never the guy who was one to settle down. He is a property of the streets.
Esma Platnumz on her part got married recently and less than two years on, her marriage is said to be in the toilet along with what’s left of my hangover bowel movements. Hers is a marriage that is a dire warning to women who believe that merely getting the ring is the end all and be all of life. The type of woman who pursued the wedding day as a societal trophy. Her husband and the union they shall have is secondary to the satisfaction of saying her vows. And as a result, Esma Platnumz and women like her make two mistakes.
You see, when all you’re concerned with is the wedding, you do no care about the type of man who gets to walk you down the aisle so you do not vet him thoroughly. And should your family see something they would normally object to, they have to be silent to allow your delusions to run unchecked for fear of the ramifications you will visit on them. Esma Platnumz is this type of female.
But where does all this stem from? I would argue that this is something they witnessed growing up from their absent deadbeat father and the relationships their mother, Kendra Sanura subsequently got involved in. Both Diamond and Esma Platnumz were socialized into their distorted and malformed view of relationships. They might actually be interested in making their relationships work but they simply don’t know how.
Or they could simply not know how to choose partners for healthy relationships because all they were socialized to like was damaged souls who match their broken selves. So they go for all the broken men they saw their mother date or they go for the behaviours those men had in the assumption that women love that sort of mess. And perhaps they are right but it translates for poor relationships that always end with a string of broken hearts and damaged children.
