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Maybe he already is the ‘love’ of your life, your ‘soul mate or whatever but for starters, let us hold off on letting him know about that. Just keep it to yourself no matter how much you would like to let him know you have marked him as your territory. It is even better when you are around him, maybe as a work colleague so you know what he is always up to 24/7 and you just love how much of a workaholic he is so you stay behind at work as well-to work! Obviously you are keeping tabs.
It is always worse when you cannot keep tabs on someone and you blink once and they are in a relationship already.
What not to do when you meet a new guy that is already the ‘love’ of your life.
Always, always, always communicating-texting and calling the man the whole day
The man says ‘let us keep the communication lines open’ and you go overboard with it.Don’t be crazy when a man shows interest; no matter how much you would like to remind him that you are still available, keep it on the low. Talk, say hi and good morning and let the man go back to work and you too as well.
Then when you see the time is about right, on a weekend or something you organize for drinks or lunch-whatever yours and his preference. Just don’t be tiresome because men easily do get bored and if you are boring before you even get the title, you will not even make it to that round because your crazy is showing.
Don’t take your friends along for dates-ever!
Take it from me, this is the most juvenile thing you can do as an adult woman in your dating life. If you are dating you should be mature enough to see creep level all on your own without dragging your friends along. Friends meet your man when he is YOUR man not before because you instantly become a turn off. How will he even get to know you when there are other people around? You go for double dates further down the line. Let a man be comfortable with you first before bringing other people in. That is baggage overload.
Don’t ‘drop’ in-at his house/ his work or his family functions
Women keep tabs on their romantic interests. I don’t even need to say more about that but you want to go in to see if there is somewhere else other than you in the picture. That is creep level 1000. There probably isn’t any person but just keep doing this a couple more times and you will not even get out of the friend zone. No one wants a creepy girlfriend who is an FBI agent.
Asking for money
I don’t know how true this one is because a lot of men-Kenyan men- complain that women they have barely gotten to know have the temerity to ask them for money. Then the women are saying that the men are stingy and they are independent. Which one between these two groups is lying? It is Kenya; all of you are lying! Anyway, when you are getting to know someone as a lady, don’t ask for money. If he is taking you on a date to unreachable places just tell him what you are more comfortable with so that you don’t overspend in taxis.
Stop trying to find out what is in his pocket
Every time you bring up his work or how easy/ comfortable his life is- you get a label on the forehead that rends him why you are undateable. That is why he did not call again. Find other ways to phrase a question about your interest in what he does. But if they all end up with his billings, you just end up looking like someone trying to find out if he can sustain your lifestyle.
