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I was given advice; ‘Don’t rush for marriage until you are well settled in when it comes to taking care of yourself and you are not dependent on someone.’ Have a career, and then look into having a family. True but also true is that do not wait until it is too late. Realistically speaking, if you want family and children and the whole works you have to hit 30 when you have that constant partner already.
Don’t wait until you have hit 30 to start looking for someone serious
You will be lying to yourself if you are thinking that your peers will now be ready as well. If they are they will be now looking for the 20-somethings. That is why as a lady in your 20-something; the minute you hit 25, don’t think the world is your oyster. Be done with all that Tomfoolery and start considering the men that are around you. Be serious if what you want is to eventually settle down and court with the ones that are like-minded. Let go of the ones that ‘just want to have fun.’ They will not want to settle down with you because you will always be their good time girl.
There is nothing wrong with having a career, but find a balance
If your goal is to eventually have a family, you are going to have to accept that there are times your work will have to take a backseat to your personal life. No one will want to spend a lifetime with a workaholic and that is the truth. There will always be the option of someone who can do this-accept that and you will find that you are humble enough to be submissive and sweet when called upon to be so.
The good husband materials will rarely if ever have anything on your list
It will make you cry every time you remember that one that was everything but did not earn enough neither was looking like he ever will by the way. We talk about potential but most of the time most end up with the average type of living. The best he will be able to do is at least be able to provide which is good when you consider some people. Others might have it all but they are happy being bachelors because they know that even when they are 40 or 50 they will still be able to bag the yungins. That is what gets most women into traps. You wait around thinking that when he is ready he will pick you because he sees you as his match but have you ever seen how lovely perky breasts are? They will seal the deal for him. Don’t wait around for a man enjoying bachelor hood, you will lose to the 20-year old former self.
If you are not ready to settle in your 20s you will be the reason you make a rush decisions in your 30s
Most people are in bad marriages due to rush decisions. You realized you had all the fun while everyone was settling down. You were a hot cake and so you thought you will live forever. I agree men are there but I will tell you, don’t be foolish when handed a gift horse snap it before someone is onto it.
