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For a lot of couples especially after a while of being together and things stagnating; the fear is whether the other partner will eventually cheat. Or will they reach a point where they would rather be with someone else rather than with the person they are with right now.
First of all, there are a couple of grounds I should cover first with regard to this topic.
- If they are cheating now, marriage will not change them.
- If throughout your whole relationship they have never respected you enough to respect your relationship; but still have their little side dishes then this article cannot help.
- If you have to constantly check on them and have little conversations on what they are about out there with other people; you are already failing. You can never be happy with someone who makes you insecure.
Basically, the above individuals are not affair proof.
Never forget the person you married or chose to commit to
The reason a lot of spouses eventually go out and look for the extra zing is because at one point in time; the two of you forgot about each other. Your conversations are basically about the kids; what bills need to be paid and that is it. You don’t inquire after you partner, how they are doing and what it is they would like to do off late. You two rarely spend time with each other it becomes common place. Someone eventually finds that excitement with someone else and even if it ends badly; that is usually a wake up call for most couples to take a look at how bad their relationship went. That hurt that you feel when someone betrays you; shows you the affection you two eventually lost towards each other.
People do grow yes, but don’t lose sight of what actually brought the two of you together
What attracted you to them, what you two liked to do together and what part of your relationship you miss the most. The moment you note certain things happening; then speak up and step up. Do not take excuses like too much work, lack of time and what not; if they can find time to eat lunch with a business partner; they can find time to eat dinner with you. Let them make it happen but the moment you keep quiet and let things continue sliding; you are helping create a gap that will be harder to bridge especially if someone else steps in.
Accept your part in actually making your relationship work.
At times two people get so involved with their own business by the time they realize that something is wrong, it is too late. That is how people fall out of love and how people come to ask themselves, ’how did I even ever like this person?’ You simply just forgot what it feels like to have them around which makes it easier to pick another person.
