South African Artist Busiswa Says Abusive Men Are Disgusting To The Core

Renowned singer and songwriter Busiswa Gqulu opened up about being in abusive relationships.

At the same time, she also took a stand against gender-based violence, which is increasing at an alarming rate in South Africa.

In a series of video shared on her Instagram account on Monday, the “Black Is King” star broke her silence on the alleged physical, psychological, emotional,s and financial abuse she suffered at the hands of her two former lovers, including the father of her baby, Katlego “DJ Kaygee” Mlangeni.

“In the years between 2013 and 2019 I was in, not one but two abusive relationships. The first was with Sfiso Mazibuko, who abused me physically, psychologically, and emotionally,” she claims.

“The second was with Katlego Mlangeni, who is the father of my child, and he abused me physically, emotionally, financially, not only while we were in a relationship, he also came after me, four months after our break up, to beat me up once again for seeing me out with someone else.”

In September 2019, the singer and her friend, Marc, real name Themba Kubheka, were allegedly attacked by Mlangeni.

Kubheka broke his silence about the violent incident on social media. However, Mlangeni later denied the assault but says he found the two in a compromising position.

Though she addressed abuse in her documentary, “Busiswa: An Unbreakable Story”, which was released in December 2019, the singer says was not ready to speak about the abuse at the time because she felt ashamed.

“I’m not making this video to talk about these two individuals, I’m making this video to address a few things particularly about gender-based violence, but also to talk to women and girls who have or may ever find themselves in those situations,” she explains.

“To ladies who are in abusive relationships, it’s not your responsibility or your job to change an abuser. When I was in an abusive relationship, I kept it a secret, I didn’t tell anyone because I did not only want to protect the person I was with at the time, I also didn’t want anybody to think that I’m weak.”

The “uWrongo” hitmaker says she regrets not getting her alleged abusers arrested.