Cyprian Nyakundi sparked public uproar when he made distasteful statement on Adelle Onyango. The Twitter bigwig condemned the Kiss FM presenter for giving talk about rape.
“Adelle Onyango gave a powerful speech against the rape culture. Pardon me for my ignorance, but who in their right mind would want to rape, let alone have consensual sex with her? Asking for a friend.” Nyakundi wrote on his Facebook page.
The blogger’s insensitive post drew lots of criticisms from Kenyans on social media. Adelle Onyango also replied to Nyakundi in a long post.
“So Cyprian no, I will not pardon your ignorance, I will not forgive that YOU just like for the man who raped me this post is not about sex but is all about objectification, power and control. I will not forgive you for what your post did to me mentally and emotionally, for the hurt it caused my family; my husband, my sisters and my close friends all in the name of “pardon me for my ignorance”. I will not let you dim my light or my message.
“You have turned a powerful anti-rape message into one about YOUR sexual preferences. This is not about who will have sex with you or who you want to have sex with Cyprian, this is about the fact that in 2008 the Crime Scene Investigation Nairobi reported that there were 40,500 rape cases in Kenya and estimated that the actual figure was 3 times higher than this and that in 2010 it was reported 32% of girls experience in Kenya sexual violence before becoming adults- that is 3 in 10 women in Kenya.
“You should not be forgiven for the example that you are setting for the next generation of men. I’m angry that every girl I know has a creepy sex story. So Cyprian please allow your mind to expand its definition of what a woman is. Being a woman is not about our bodies or being over dramatic or being soft or having emotions and changing our minds. We are not here for your vilification. And I acknowledge that men are raped too, and I am sorry, but men who have lived their whole lives as men haven’t been told and taught that they deserve to be raped, that their voices carry no weight and that their anger is invalid. So, Cyprian, I understand why you think that we deserve to be raped and sexually objectified, abused, that our voices carry no weight and that my anger and my causes are infinitely invalid. I hope this allows you to experience some sort of vulnerability, either mine or your own. For the men that support our causes and realize the bane of the womb, we say thank you, and continue to support us, love us and cherish us, as women for being women, appreciate our intellect, hear our voices and acknowledge our accomplishments for we will continue to spread the message, and keep hope alive that one day we will live in a rape-free society.
I dedicate this to anyone who has ever been hurt in the name of masculinity,” Wrote Adelle in part.
Nyakundi however has no apology to make over his controversial Facebook post. The Twitter bigwig hit back at his critics in an article written on his blog titled ‘Define Stupidity: Kenyan Feminists Reporting Nyakundi To Twitter, For A Post On Facebook’.
“For instance, Nyakundi is a victim of feminist-rage, yet the truth is that today, no woman has gotten her corporate job in Nairobi through merit. It is common knowledge that many have had to part with sexual enticements, in-order to achieve the “success” they brag about today. Because that form of sexual-abuse is “acceptable” , hypocritical feminists will choose to give it a wide-berth, and focus on the aggregated presumption that all “Men Are Trash” .
“You see, for as long as you’re not parting with financial recompense, you are trash to women. Well the reality is that yes, we men have standards too! We can tell ugly women, gold-diggers, high body-count, sluts, but most of all, we can see through the veil of feminism abused by Nairobi women, as a tool for social and financial progression. It’s these women who have nothing to offer society, that have fallen back to feminine-activism as a default for seeking relevance and attention,” wrote Nyakundi in part.